What Kind of a Friend Are You, Really? (Take the Quiz!)

Friendship is where empathy gets real. Sometimes we show up beautifully attuned to what a friend needs; other times, we miss the beat entirely. That’s part of the messy, wonderful truth of human connection.

In my latest newsletter and video, I explore how empathy shows up in adult friendships. Inspired partly by the conclusion of And Just Like That… and my reflections on the original Sex and the City, I found myself asking: how do we actually show up for our friends?

To make sense of it, I mapped out seven ways empathy tends to appear in our friendships — what I call the Friendship Empathy Archetypes:

• The Nourisher

• The Strategist

• The Solicitor

• The Expander

• The Echo

• The Ghost

• The Therapist

These aren’t boxes to put ourselves into, but mirrors to help us notice how we typically respond in friendship — and how we might stretch when a friend needs us differently.

I even built a short quiz so you can discover your own archetype. It only takes a few minutes, and the results might surprise you. When I took it myself with two different friends in mind, I actually got two different archetypes — a reminder that empathy is situational and dynamic.

👉 Take the Friendship Empathy Archetype Quiz here

Alongside the quiz, I recorded a video walking through the background, the archetypes, and my own personal stories about friendship and empathy.

Whether you read, watch, or take the quiz (or all three!), I hope this sparks some reflection — and maybe a conversation with a friend. Because when we pause to notice our defaults and stretch into new ways of connecting, we don’t just become better friends. We become better humans.

👉 Read the full newsletter or watch the You Tube video to go deeper.